The Best Way To Pick Up Women Summary

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-The best way to pick up women is to have something better to do than to pick up women. 

-Always put your goals and ambitions in life ahead of women. If you don't have any, find out what they are RIGHT NOW. 

-What do you want to do with your life?

-Be the man you want to be. Who is the man you want to be? 

-Women don't want to be first in your life. Get the message across that your time is VERY VALUABLE and that you're not going to just hang out or date any woman. 

The Best Way to Pick Up Women

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I know a lot of guys are going to stumble upon this post and become laser focused because you see the BEST way to pick up women. Well I am going to tell you. The thing is, you're probably going to be confused and not understand, or maybe you will understand. You're going to have to commit to understanding this principle if you want attractive women to come into your life. Here it goes. The best way to pick up women is to HAVE SOMETHING BETTER TO DO THAN TO PICK UP WOMEN. 

Neil Strauss (A.K.A. Style), one of the best pick up artists that was trained by Mystery (The world's greatest pick up artist), says this in his DVD Annihilation Method. Why is this? Well, believe it or not, women don't want you to put them first. Putting you're life first is essential in attracting women because you are demonstrating that you are high value and that you're time to yourself is valuable. You have goals and ambitions and that in itself is magnetizing because you're creating a future of success for yourself. 

For instance. Let's say you want to be an actor. What would you do? You would devote your time to being an actor by taking acting classes, getting books on acting, etc. You go to class and you see that there are attractive women there and they're giving you indicators of interest wondering about you. It's because you're there because you WANT to be an actor. In this case, talking with them is cool. On another note, if you're taking an acting class to get women and not to become an actor, then you're probably going to come off as a creepy player guy. Women can pick up on this kind of energy. 

Having something better to do is definitely the best way to pick women. So ask yourself, what do you want to do with your life? If you want to be an athlete, be an athlete. If you want to be an artist, be an artist. If you want to be a doctor, be a doctor. BE THE MAN YOU WANT TO BE. Not only be the man you want to be, but be the best at it. They'll be flocking your way.

What's it like to be an Attractive Woman Summary

-Many men approach attractive women constantly. 9 times out of 10, what you're going to say isn't going to be original and isn't going to sweep them off their feet. It's all about your inner game (Inner game meaning your character.)

-Think about what it's like to be in their shoes. Think about being an attractive woman for the last fifteen years. What's an approach that happens to her likely and what's an approach that's 99.9% guaranteed to fail?

-Men are going to want to know if they can take an attractive woman out to dinner, buy her flowers, ask for her phone number, shower her with gifts, buy her a drink, and so on. Women don't want to be bought. 

-A woman wants to be wanted. Being wanted is more attractive than being needed. 

-Although attractive women get approached constantly, they still dress up and put on make up to look good because they expect that their night and shining armor could appear at any moment. 

-Accept their rejection when it happens. Rejection is power. 

What's it Like to be an Attractive Woman

What’s it like to be an attractive woman? If you’re a man, chances are you’re into finding a beautiful woman for yourself. That’s good. I think what’ll help you is to step into the shoes of an attractive woman. There’s no techniques here, but an understanding of an attractive woman’s mind. It will help you work on how you should approach them. Now I’m not an attractive woman, but I’ve observed situations involving them and I’ve asked them questions about this kind of stuff. So let’s take a look.

So you’re a beautiful woman that’s getting ready for her day. You’re doing your hair, putting on your makeup and eyeliner, and picking out just the right clothing to look good. She goes out and is looking at her very best. What is almost guaranteed to happen to her? Chances are, many men are going to approach her. They’re going to want to know if they can take her out to dinner, buy her flowers, ask for her phone number, shower her with gifts, buy her a drink, and so on.

Let’s say this woman is 30 years old and she’s been physically developed since just before high school. What has been happening for the last 15 plus years? Well, just like how she got ready for her day, men have been approaching her wanting to know if she’ll go out with them. Is she tired of this? More than likely, the answer is yes. Then again, I could be wrong. Women do enjoy getting this kind of attention. I guess it just depends on who they’re getting it from. Men that are head over heels for this kind of woman but have absolutely no control over themselves whatsoever will probably get kicked to the curb. I’m just speaking from experience, but usually 9/10 when I’ve showered a woman with buying her dinner and buying her gifts right away, IT HAS NEVER WORKED. I know this doesn’t work because I’ve came up with the solution to why it didn’t work and I came to the conclusion that I should buy more gifts. NOPE. This makes it even worse. Men who do have control of themselves and show this woman that they want her will probably be accepted. They’re NOT BUYING A RELATIONSHIP. Women want to be wanted. Not bought.

Now here’s an interesting thought. If this woman has been approached by all these men for the last 15 years, then why does she even bother to continue to put on make up, do her hair, and dress up in all these sexy clothes? Hmm. A good point wouldn’t you say? Well referring back to an interview I saw David DeAngelo do on his program Approaching Women with two women called the wing girls, these girls say it’s because they expect that their night and shining armor could show up at any time. Did you catch that? They’re still hoping that the man of their dreams is going to come at any moment. So technically it’s not that attractive women hate men (maybe they’re into women. You’ll run into that every once in a while and that’s cool). It’s that they’ve been approached by the same stuff over and over again.

I know this for a fact. I have a friend that gets approached like this by men ALL THE TIME. She’s not necessarily rude to them. She gives them the benefit of the doubt, but she does get annoyed with it from time to time. She’s even had a guy write her poems continuously after she said she wasn’t interested. Only if this guy knew that more poems wasn’t the answer. I’m not saying his poem writing is bad, but he should find a girl he’s into that truly appreciates his talent.

Another thing that I’ve learned is that WOMEN ARE ALWAYS THINKING. Both sides of their brain are continuously working. It’s like a hamster on coffee. Meaning that they locked their car doors and their walking away thinking “Did I lock the door?” Then suddenly “Is my hair okay? Oh my God I think I forgot my lip gloss! Oh that’s the cutest stuffed animal I’ve ever seen!” So guys if you get ignored by them, don’t take it personally. Chances are if you got ignored, their in this excessive thinking state of mind.

So their you have it. This is some of what I’ve learned and notice from an attractive woman’s mind. I’m not saying it’s 100%, but it’s what I’ve observed.

Go After What You Want Summary

-Know what you want. Knowing what you want from women is going to make dating a hundred times easier.

-Make a decision on what it is you want. What kind of a woman do you want to date? What kind of a relationship do you want to be in?

-Women are not going to sit there and wait for you to ask them out. If you don’t take any kind of ACTION whatsoever immediately, they’ll look elsewhere for a guy that wants to be with them.

-Be clear about what you want. Don't say "I just want a girlfriend." You'll get one, but probably one you don't want. Be descriptive about what you want. 

-DON’T BE ASHAMED TO ADMIT WHAT IT IS THAT YOU WANT. Be proud.

Go After What You Want / What Do You Want?

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Like most men, the one thing that they all want in their lives is a relationship with an attractive woman. However, so many men have trouble with this. Why is that? I’ve had trouble with this for most of my life. I’ve never really had trouble talking with beautiful women. Of course, every once in a while I would screw up, but for the most part I knew how to talk with them. I never knew how to take it to the next level though. All throughout grammar school and high school, I was single. I had women that were interested in me, but it just never took off. This left me frustrated and angry with myself. Then I Realized somethings.

First off, the things that I wanted were standing right in front of me. Cute girls that wanted to go out with me. The problem was, I JUST NEVER MADE THE DECISION THAT THAT’S WHAT I WANTED. It’s one thing to want something. It’s another thing to want something and make the decision to go after it. Me not making a decision to pull out my phone and ask for their number to get coffee sometime is what stagnated my progress in this area. What I realized here is that most women are not going to sit there and wait for you to ask them out. If you don’t take any kind of ACTION whatsoever immediately, they’ll look elsewhere for a guy that wants to be with them. I remember when this would happen and I Would approach them to talk and they would just start giving me one word answers and give full sentences to other guys. It hurt, but at least I know what I could’ve done right now.

Another thing is that there were times when I wasn’t clear about what it was that I wanted. I would say things to myself like, Oh I just want to have a girlfriend or Oh I just want to be in a relationship. Keep this in mind. Being indecisive on what you want NEVER WORKS. Again, I would have women that were interested, but they were not what I was looking for AT ALL. Even worse, I accepted a relationship just to be in a relationship and I wasn’t fully attracted to the girl I was going out with it. Looking back at it, I think I was ashamed to admit that there were some certain things that I wanted, which resulted in struggling with women. Keep this in mind. DON’T BE ASHAMED TO ADMIT WHAT IT IS THAT YOU WANT. If other people don’t approve of your preferences, that’s THEIR ISSUE. Not yours. After all, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

The one thing that has worked for me, and it’s going to work for you as well is KNOWING WHAT YOU WANT. This makes things a hundred times easier. One night, I was just so sick of getting no results with women that something was telling me to sit down with a pen and a piece of paper and write down what it is that I wanted. I put down that I wanted to be in an intimate relationship, I put down the physical description of how I wanted her to look and the characteristics she had. My whole body felt skeptical of this process, but some of my body felt good about this too because it was like at least I’ve come to a decision of what it was that I was looking for. Most people have no idea what it is that they want. You know what happened? I’d say about 90% of what I had written out on that night manifested 3 months later! I got a beautiful 5’3 115lb hispanic girl with long hair that loved to work out and had a positive outlook on life! I couldn’t believe it. All this time I thought it was that women didn’t like me. Turns out that I just had to know what it is that I wanted.

I got this from a dating expert named David DeAngelo (Who now goes by his real name Eben Pagan). I was listening to his program on Attracting women and all of it had great points and ideas. Then I heard him say “Knowing what you want from women is going to make dating a hundred times easier.” When I first heard this, I just didn’t see how making a decision on what I wanted was going to fix the whole problem. I was VERY SKEPTICAL and even ignored that advice. Then I just decided to apply it that one night because I figured I didn’t have anything to lose from this. I did it and what do you know? It finally happened. So as a man that was looking to have a intimate relationship with a beautiful women, I ask you this? What do you want?

What's the Problem Summary

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-Convince yourself that your approaches are going to be fun and exciting no matter what.

-Approve of yourself. That's all that matters.

-Accept rejection when it happens. Rejection is power.

-Keep a notebook of things to say when approaching women. Write in it consistently. 

-If you see a woman and you like the vibe you're feeling from her, approach her. Chances are you have a lot in common. 

-Take the risk of approaching women you don't know. You'll be glad you did and you'll want to develop the skill. 

-Build a self image you love. Be your own man. You'll be magnetizing not only to women, but to people as well. 

-Have fun approaching women. Remember not to take this too seriously. Have a balance of seriousness and fun. 

-Identify your fears and get them fixed. Be the one in control 

What's the Problem?

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Like most men, the skills of attracting women can be a huge challenge. For some men, it comes naturally to them and they have this area of their life all figured out. For many years, this has been a challenge for me, so I had to ask myself what was going on. I had to be honest with myself. Coming up with these answers really helped me out and I think they’ll help you out as well. So let’s take a look. What’s up?

You Don’t Know What’s Going to Happen

This always freaked me out. When it came to approaching women, I always asked myself what was going to happen. Instead of getting excited about this, a huge rush of fear and anxiety would hit me like a bullet. I think the big key when approaching a woman is to just get it out there. Get something going on for yourself. Put the energy into it so it can come back to you. If you get rejected, think about it. That’s power being given to you. Ironically, rejection is power. This doesn’t relate to women, but you know Aaron Rodgers, Quarterback of the Green Bay Packers? When he was trying to get into a big college school, many of those schools gave him rejection letters. You know what he did? He kept the letters for motivation. He chose a Non-resistant way. Today, he’s a Super Bowl Champion and possibly on his way to getting two or three more Super Bowls. The idea here is persistence. Keep going until you get what you want.

You’re Worried People Won’t Approve of You

Honestly, who cares about what other people think about you? Their opinion towards you has nothing to do with you. IT’S THEIR ISSUE. NOT YOURS. Most people are more worried about what you’re going to think about them anyways. The other thing is this MIGHT BE WHAT THEY’RE THINKING. Even if they do have some harsh criticisms towards you, remember, that’s power. They’re giving you power.

You’re Afraid of Being Rejected

Learn to accept rejection. For most humans, rejection can be painful. They think it’s a bad thing. IT ISN’T. Remember when I was saying that rejection is power? It really is. I remember times when I would get kicked to the curbed (metaphorically speaking) and I would be depressed about it, but then suddenly another attractive woman would enter the picture that was better and liked me. There is a Law of Sacrifice in this universe. it means something good is being traded in for something better. Think of it like that. Its proven to be a useful idea to apply.

You Don’t Know What to Say

I’ve had this problem for a long time. If I go over there to talk to her, I’m not going to know what to say. Well, think of things to say. Go online and look up what women like to talk about with men and write it down. For me, attraction has always been an intuitive thing meaning if I like the vibe I’m getting from a woman, chances are we’re attracted to each other and we have a good amount of things in common. So use your gut feeling as well.

You Believe It’s Not Going to Work

Believe it or not, the times that I’ve been most skeptical are the times when my approach has actually worked the most. I remember coming up with things to say or friends coming up with things to say for me and being like “NO WAY. SHE’LL SLAP ME FOR SAYING THAT!” The end result was usually a big laugh and a playful hit in the arm or a huge jaw drop (I love that). Keep in mind though, that you’ll run into a woman every once in a while that might slap you. But hey, if you’re not getting hit every once in a while, you’re not trying hard enough.

You Don’t Want to Bother Her

Dude, if you’re really into her, go bother her! Many guys say that they don’t want to offend a woman by approaching her. Now why would a woman be offended by this? You’re just going up and talking with her. I’ve heard many attractive women say that THEY WANT TO BE WANTED, NOT NEEDED. I’d like to add in that their’s a huge difference between needing a woman and wanting her. A woman that comes across a man that wants her is a hundred times more attractive then a man that needs one.

It's Unnatural

Perhaps it is. Most of us are not hardwired to communicate with people we don't know. We think we're going to offend a women just by approaching her. Now why would a woman be offended if you approached them? TAKE THE RISK. Think of how much better your life is going to get if you develop this skill.

You’ve Built an Image You Don’t like

If you have done this, take some time to figure out who you really are. The Inner Game is the most important thing to develop when it comes to attracting women. You’ve probably developed beliefs from your parents, teachers, and other authority figures that aren’t true. So take some time to figure out WHO YOU ARE. NOT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK YOU ARE. What do you really believe in? What do you really want out of life for yourself?

It's Too Important To You

Although this is an important area for men, LIGHTEN UP! Don’t take it too seriously. Remember, this is suppose to be fun. A woman loves a man that has a sense of humor and can laugh at himself every once in a while.

Your Fears Aren’t Under Control

Get control of your fear. Remember, you’re just approaching another human being to talk with them. Get in control of you’re breathing and JUST BE YOU. The fear of approaching women goes way back into the caveman days and other times back then. We fear approaching women because of the possibility of death from back then. If a man approached a woman and she was taken, he was either beaten or killed for it. Did you know that when you have a baby with your partner, the cells and chemicals in your body transfer to that child? So in a way, that’s hardwired into us. AGAIN THOUGH, DON’T LET THIS BE YOUR EXCUSE. FIND A WAY. We’ve come a long way since then. Humans don’t commit acts like this anymore for wanting to talk to someone. So just relax!

What Women Look For in Men Summary

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-Men and women are hard wired differently. 

 -Women are attracted to a men by how the man makes them feel.

- Your confidence, appearance, health, hygiene, comfort, attitude, fashion, and goals in life will determine how you attract women. 

-Focus on the basics of attracting women, and the complex stuff will take care of itself. 

What Women Look For In Men

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What do women look for in men? First off, it’s very important to understand that women are much different from men. Men and women are hard wired differently. This causes frustration. However, through understanding women, frustration can be minimized. 

Men are attracted to a way a woman looks. Women are also attracted to features of men, but they respond much more to their emotionally circuitry. In other words, they’re attracted to a man by how the man makes them feel. If you push the right buttons, you’ll make them feel a positive emotion towards you. If you don’t, well I think you know already. What’s amazing is that her responses have nothing to do with you. She’s just responding to how you’ve approached her. 

So what are some basic things women look for in men? Let’s take a look.

Appearance- On a subconscious level, women are going to be attracted to the taller and better looking man. Is this an excuse for men who are opposite? Absolutely not! You’re success with women is going to revolve around how you think about them. If you want to have a great relationship with them, then you have to focus your thoughts on the positive things about them. You must get rid of any negative thoughts about them. If it’s of any help, women have to do the same if they want success with men. Stuff like “women are the devil”, “women are all bitches” or on the woman’s side “men are pigs”, “men are assholes” has to go because you’re only hurting yourself. Think more like “women are awesome with me”, “women really value me” instead. Focus on more of these types of thoughts and affirmations and you’re beliefs about them will change. 

Health- A woman loves a man that takes care of himself. They love a man that loves to workout hard. I’m not saying you have to go to the gym and buy steroids. We all have a form of exercise that’s for us. There’s hiking, biking, running, boxing, martial arts, yoga, and even weightlifting. The most important thing is that you find something that is for you.

Hygiene- This one is one of the most crucial things for men to learn. Yet, there are a good amount of men that don’t take care of their hygiene. Men are shooting themselves in the head when they choose to let their hygiene go bad. Women don’t just look at this, they dissect it. So please gentlemen, take care of yourselves! Shower, shave, brush your teeth, get a good hair cut, throw away clothes that have holes in them. What are you saying about yourself if you don’t take care of yourself? Think about it. Every action has a reaction. 

Fashion- This is something that many men need help on, and that’s okay. I think it has to go back to how we are hard wired once again. Go online and do some research. Ask women about what’s good out there in the fashion world for men because this is another thing that a woman completely dissects. Again shirts with holes in them, shirts that smell so bad they can’t be washed out, and shirts that look like they’ve been pee’d on (trust me I’ve seen it) get rid of them. 

Comfort- A man has got to be comfortable with himself. If you aren’t, then who is going to be comfortable around you. Again, every action has a reaction. Give yourself permission to be you. Your approval is all you’re going to need here. 

Positive attitude- One of the most effective things you can have as man is an optimistic mind. Don’t take things so seriously. Even in dark times, there’s humor to lighten things up. 

Confidence- Be confident with yourself. A man that has himself under control is confident with himself no matter what.

Being non reactive- The only person you’re trying to impress is you. Don’t try to impress and get approval from others. 

Having personal goals- I think is one of the most attractive things a woman can find in a man is a man that has personal goals. In other words, a man with a life of his own. It’s a way that a man can put himself first instead of a woman. They really respect a man that has his mind set on a goal that he would really love to accomplish. It also puts the man on a path on discovering more about himself, which is one of life’s biggest keys. If anything, build the image that you want to be. Know yourself. 

These are the basics of what women look for in men. There’s much more to it then this. However, if anything master the basics first. Always come back to them and you’ll get through the more complex stuff easier.