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-The best way to pick up women is to have something better to do than to pick up women. -Always put your goals and ambitions in life ahead of women. If you don't have any, find out what they are RIGHT NOW. -What do you want to do with your life? -Be the man you want to be. Who is the man you want to be? -Women don't want to be first in your life. Get the message across that your time is VERY VALUABLE and that you're not going to just hang out or date any woman.
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I know a lot of guys are going to stumble upon this post and become laser focused because you see the BEST way to pick up women. Well I am going to tell you. The thing is, you're probably going to be confused and not understand, or maybe you will understand. You're going to have to commit to understanding this principle if you want attractive women to come into your life. Here it goes. The best way to pick up women is to HAVE SOMETHING BETTER TO DO THAN TO PICK UP WOMEN. Neil Strauss (A.K.A. Style), one of the best pick up artists that was trained by Mystery (The world's greatest pick up artist), says this in his DVD Annihilation Method. Why is this? Well, believe it or not, women don't want you to put them first. Putting you're life first is essential in attracting women because you are demonstrating that you are high value and that you're time to yourself is valuable. You have goals and ambitions and that in itself is magnetizing because you're creating a future of success for yourself. For instance. Let's say you want to be an actor. What would you do? You would devote your time to being an actor by taking acting classes, getting books on acting, etc. You go to class and you see that there are attractive women there and they're giving you indicators of interest wondering about you. It's because you're there because you WANT to be an actor. In this case, talking with them is cool. On another note, if you're taking an acting class to get women and not to become an actor, then you're probably going to come off as a creepy player guy. Women can pick up on this kind of energy. Having something better to do is definitely the best way to pick women. So ask yourself, what do you want to do with your life? If you want to be an athlete, be an athlete. If you want to be an artist, be an artist. If you want to be a doctor, be a doctor. BE THE MAN YOU WANT TO BE. Not only be the man you want to be, but be the best at it. They'll be flocking your way.
-Many men approach attractive women constantly. 9 times out of 10, what you're going to say isn't going to be original and isn't going to sweep them off their feet. It's all about your inner game (Inner game meaning your character.) -Think about what it's like to be in their shoes. Think about being an attractive woman for the last fifteen years. What's an approach that happens to her likely and what's an approach that's 99.9% guaranteed to fail? -Men are going to want to know if they can take an attractive woman out to dinner, buy her flowers, ask for her phone number, shower her with gifts, buy her a drink, and so on. Women don't want to be bought. -A woman wants to be wanted. Being wanted is more attractive than being needed. -Although attractive women get approached constantly, they still dress up and put on make up to look good because they expect that their night and shining armor could appear at any moment. -Accept their rejection when it happens. Rejection is power.
What’s it like to be an attractive woman? If you’re a man, chances are you’re into finding a beautiful woman for yourself. That’s good. I think what’ll help you is to step into the shoes of an attractive woman. There’s no techniques here, but an understanding of an attractive woman’s mind. It will help you work on how you should approach them. Now I’m not an attractive woman, but I’ve observed situations involving them and I’ve asked them questions about this kind of stuff. So let’s take a look.
So you’re a beautiful woman that’s getting ready for her day. You’re doing your hair, putting on your makeup and eyeliner, and picking out just the right clothing to look good. She goes out and is looking at her very best. What is almost guaranteed to happen to her? Chances are, many men are going to approach her. They’re going to want to know if they can take her out to dinner, buy her flowers, ask for her phone number, shower her with gifts, buy her a drink, and so on.
Let’s say this woman is 30 years old and she’s been physically developed since just before high school. What has been happening for the last 15 plus years? Well, just like how she got ready for her day, men have been approaching her wanting to know if she’ll go out with them. Is she tired of this? More than likely, the answer is yes. Then again, I could be wrong. Women do enjoy getting this kind of attention. I guess it just depends on who they’re getting it from. Men that are head over heels for this kind of woman but have absolutely no control over themselves whatsoever will probably get kicked to the curb. I’m just speaking from experience, but usually 9/10 when I’ve showered a woman with buying her dinner and buying her gifts right away, IT HAS NEVER WORKED. I know this doesn’t work because I’ve came up with the solution to why it didn’t work and I came to the conclusion that I should buy more gifts. NOPE. This makes it even worse. Men who do have control of themselves and show this woman that they want her will probably be accepted. They’re NOT BUYING A RELATIONSHIP. Women want to be wanted. Not bought.
Now here’s an interesting thought. If this woman has been approached by all these men for the last 15 years, then why does she even bother to continue to put on make up, do her hair, and dress up in all these sexy clothes? Hmm. A good point wouldn’t you say? Well referring back to an interview I saw David DeAngelo do on his program Approaching Women with two women called the wing girls, these girls say it’s because they expect that their night and shining armor could show up at any time. Did you catch that? They’re still hoping that the man of their dreams is going to come at any moment. So technically it’s not that attractive women hate men (maybe they’re into women. You’ll run into that every once in a while and that’s cool). It’s that they’ve been approached by the same stuff over and over again.
I know this for a fact. I have a friend that gets approached like this by men ALL THE TIME. She’s not necessarily rude to them. She gives them the benefit of the doubt, but she does get annoyed with it from time to time. She’s even had a guy write her poems continuously after she said she wasn’t interested. Only if this guy knew that more poems wasn’t the answer. I’m not saying his poem writing is bad, but he should find a girl he’s into that truly appreciates his talent.
Another thing that I’ve learned is that WOMEN ARE ALWAYS THINKING. Both sides of their brain are continuously working. It’s like a hamster on coffee. Meaning that they locked their car doors and their walking away thinking “Did I lock the door?” Then suddenly “Is my hair okay? Oh my God I think I forgot my lip gloss! Oh that’s the cutest stuffed animal I’ve ever seen!” So guys if you get ignored by them, don’t take it personally. Chances are if you got ignored, their in this excessive thinking state of mind.
So their you have it. This is some of what I’ve learned and notice from an attractive woman’s mind. I’m not saying it’s 100%, but it’s what I’ve observed.
-Know what you want. Knowing what you want from women is going to make dating a hundred times easier. -Make a decision on what it is you want. What kind of a woman do you want to date? What kind of a relationship do you want to be in? -Women are not going to sit there and wait for you to ask them out. If you don’t take any kind of ACTION whatsoever immediately, they’ll look elsewhere for a guy that wants to be with them. -Be clear about what you want. Don't say "I just want a girlfriend." You'll get one, but probably one you don't want. Be descriptive about what you want. -DON’T BE ASHAMED TO ADMIT WHAT IT IS THAT YOU WANT. Be proud.
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Like most men, the one thing that they all want in their lives is a relationship with an attractive woman. However, so many men have trouble with this. Why is that? I’ve had trouble with this for most of my life. I’ve never really had trouble talking with beautiful women. Of course, every once in a while I would screw up, but for the most part I knew how to talk with them. I never knew how to take it to the next level though. All throughout grammar school and high school, I was single. I had women that were interested in me, but it just never took off. This left me frustrated and angry with myself. Then I Realized somethings. First off, the things that I wanted were standing right in front of me. Cute girls that wanted to go out with me. The problem was, I JUST NEVER MADE THE DECISION THAT THAT’S WHAT I WANTED. It’s one thing to want something. It’s another thing to want something and make the decision to go after it. Me not making a decision to pull out my phone and ask for their number to get coffee sometime is what stagnated my progress in this area. What I realized here is that most women are not going to sit there and wait for you to ask them out. If you don’t take any kind of ACTION whatsoever immediately, they’ll look elsewhere for a guy that wants to be with them. I remember when this would happen and I Would approach them to talk and they would just start giving me one word answers and give full sentences to other guys. It hurt, but at least I know what I could’ve done right now. Another thing is that there were times when I wasn’t clear about what it was that I wanted. I would say things to myself like, Oh I just want to have a girlfriend or Oh I just want to be in a relationship. Keep this in mind. Being indecisive on what you want NEVER WORKS. Again, I would have women that were interested, but they were not what I was looking for AT ALL. Even worse, I accepted a relationship just to be in a relationship and I wasn’t fully attracted to the girl I was going out with it. Looking back at it, I think I was ashamed to admit that there were some certain things that I wanted, which resulted in struggling with women. Keep this in mind. DON’T BE ASHAMED TO ADMIT WHAT IT IS THAT YOU WANT. If other people don’t approve of your preferences, that’s THEIR ISSUE. Not yours. After all, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The one thing that has worked for me, and it’s going to work for you as well is KNOWING WHAT YOU WANT. This makes things a hundred times easier. One night, I was just so sick of getting no results with women that something was telling me to sit down with a pen and a piece of paper and write down what it is that I wanted. I put down that I wanted to be in an intimate relationship, I put down the physical description of how I wanted her to look and the characteristics she had. My whole body felt skeptical of this process, but some of my body felt good about this too because it was like at least I’ve come to a decision of what it was that I was looking for. Most people have no idea what it is that they want. You know what happened? I’d say about 90% of what I had written out on that night manifested 3 months later! I got a beautiful 5’3 115lb hispanic girl with long hair that loved to work out and had a positive outlook on life! I couldn’t believe it. All this time I thought it was that women didn’t like me. Turns out that I just had to know what it is that I wanted. I got this from a dating expert named David DeAngelo (Who now goes by his real name Eben Pagan). I was listening to his program on Attracting women and all of it had great points and ideas. Then I heard him say “Knowing what you want from women is going to make dating a hundred times easier.” When I first heard this, I just didn’t see how making a decision on what I wanted was going to fix the whole problem. I was VERY SKEPTICAL and even ignored that advice. Then I just decided to apply it that one night because I figured I didn’t have anything to lose from this. I did it and what do you know? It finally happened. So as a man that was looking to have a intimate relationship with a beautiful women, I ask you this? What do you want?
Image from http://www.pinstripemag.com/2012/05/23-biggest-turn-offs-for-women.html -Convince yourself that your approaches are going to be fun and exciting no matter what. -Approve of yourself. That's all that matters. -Accept rejection when it happens. Rejection is power. -Keep a notebook of things to say when approaching women. Write in it consistently. -If you see a woman and you like the vibe you're feeling from her, approach her. Chances are you have a lot in common. -Take the risk of approaching women you don't know. You'll be glad you did and you'll want to develop the skill. -Build a self image you love. Be your own man. You'll be magnetizing not only to women, but to people as well. -Have fun approaching women. Remember not to take this too seriously. Have a balance of seriousness and fun. -Identify your fears and get them fixed. Be the one in control
